Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

When you consider dating a woman, more than likely you consider dinner and a movie, right?

Going out and doing stuff with the girl. Getting to know her, and all that jazz.

Have you considered this may be the wrong idea when it comes to dating?

See, most guys use the concept of “going out” with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let’s go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when “dating” a girl…

Mistake #1: Guys use dates as opportunities to “Impress” women.

Many men feel they have to prove themselves while on a date, so the woman is attracted to them. Many may take a woman out to expensive places while showing her a good time; while they go on to build himself up as important by bragging.

Mistake #2: Guys think they can buy their way into a woman’s heart.

This is not true and is a very bad idea, since many women are not concerned about the amount of money you spend on a date. There is no amount of money or any expensive item you can buy that will get a woman interested in you if there is no mutual attraction.

Mistake #3: Activities are a pointless waste of time!

Just the sheer act of going out to places with somebody doesn’t mean as much as you think it does. If you do the typical “dinner and a movie” thing, that won’t necessarily get the girl to like you. Spending time together does not always equate to romantic interest.

Mistake #4: Men become boring!

If there are no sparks of chemistry, the date is a dud, this can happen, when men get nervous on their dates. Most often, these men continually talk about ordinary subjects while they show little to none of their sparkling personality. They just go through the motions with hopes of not messing up their date.

Mistake #5: Following a pattern for failure.

Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.

So what does it mean to date a woman?

The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections.

Where you go and the amounts of money you spend are not important, what is important is your ability to connect with the woman you are dating and positively encouraging the way she feels about you.

You will notice that this is the major factor in the difference of going on cheap dates while truly romancing a woman and that of spending a great deal of money and getting nowhere fast.

You should always focus on how you can encourage an emotional connection with the woman you date.

Consider talking about your passions and shared interests, this will aid you in determining what hopes and dreams she holds dear.

Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”

Most importantly: HAVE FUN!

Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.

More importantly, never shy away from relationship discussions.

Too many guys are afraid to even broach the topic of sex while on a date. But you have to build the sexual tension to intensify the attraction.

Relax and be a bit wicked by flirting and joking with your date about romance women enjoy this as well. Therefore, if you do not, you have no means of building the attraction of the woman you date onto a higher level.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
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Balancing our beliefs and desires is an ever acting characteristic in a humans life, we strive do this all the time.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

Naturally, we strive to remain true in our beliefs. For some Christian men, it is vital that their experience of love stay within the boundaries of their church.

One of those boundaries is that sex should only happen once married.

This is not a belief for us to judge since there are validities of free will choices for us all in whether we follow it or not.

Ancient legends tell us that when we partake of sex with one another, a part of their soul lingers with ours and we carry that piece of soul around with us for the rest of our lives.

The doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one, when you consider this in some respect.

But this presents a unique challenge for those men out there who wish to stay true to their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

It is truly a difficult union for anyone who is married and incompatible therefore, sex is important.

Here is some advice I’ve come up with specifically for men who face this issue of romance vs. faith.

1. Be clear about what you believe.

Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.

We have ability to reason and think and we have free will. It is up to us to check out the options while deciding which path we may follow. You may embrace all the teachings of church or you may choose what you believe.

No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is you believe, and stick to it!

2. Understand that God has a plan for you.

You must trust in the fact that there is a woman out there you are meant to be with, and God has a plan to unite you with her.

But there is only so much God can do! After all, we are beings of free will, and it is up to us to take action and seize the opportunities God presents to us.

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

Since your actions are belief based on the path God that has set before you, you have to make it happen. This means going out to meet women, dating and getting to know the woman. Remember this is not something that just happens.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

Virginity may be sacred, however, it is meant to be given or lost. Your challenge is to seek out the right person with whom to share your sexuality.

Sex has a spiritual aspect of course, since it is an aspect of finding the woman who makes you feel so very alive, whole and loved. The spiritual aspect of sex is different from the act of sex, since it touches you within a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

Intimacy with women is nothing to be afraid of, hugging, touching and kissing are natural urges and reactions. Nevertheless, true intimacy comes for sharing your hopes and dreams with each other while staring deeply into each others eyes.

4. Women are real people with no need of a pedestal.

Because of the importance places on sex in your faith, it might be easy to artificially inflate a woman’s importance.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
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Pick up lines have a very bad reputation.

When have you heard some of the cheesiest of pick up lines like the following…

“Are you a parking ticket? Because you’re a little fine!”

“Your name must be Gillet, because you’re the best a man can get.”

“Your daddy must have been a thief, because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes.”

Using a line like these will get you nowhere with a woman fast, chances are she will not even speak to you.

But because the bad pick up lines get so much attention, people think ALL pick up lines are like this.

This simply is not true.

A good pick up line will actually do what it says – help you pick up a girl!

The true point in using pick up lines is to begin a conversation.

PERIOD.

After the woman begins talking with you, then you work your magic of getting her to date you, her telephone number and the emotional connection.

But if you can’t get the conversation started, then you can do anything else!

You not only talk to a woman, you engage her, by drawing her into a conversation, and this is the only means to continuing with your goal.

Do you know that good pick up lines do just that?

Do you know that when most men meet women they are at a loss for words to begin talking to a woman? They try to think of something off the top of their head, while often missing the opportunity of meeting a nice woman, before they can think of something to say.

It is essential to have at least a couple of good working pick up lines, especially for those times when you are nervous and cannot think of anything original that helps you take action.

Never, consider that you can slide by with a line such as:

“I know you from somewhere, don’t I?”

All women know this to be a lame pick up line. You might think you’re being clever when you say this, but you’re not.

Also, doing things like asking for directions, telling a girl she looks like a certain celebrity, and complimenting her on a piece of clothing are BAD ways to pick a girl up.

Why is this?

This is because these lines do not engage the woman into a conversation with you, once she answers your question, she may not show interest in conversing with you.

Bad pick up lines have yes and no answers. Good pick up lines get a woman to thinking about her response, while encouraging an emotional reaction from her, this causes her to want to continue talking with you.

How do you engage a woman in conversation?

Asking her opinion of something is the easiest way to do this, since each woman has an opinion and they like sharing their ideas, especially about relationships.

Good pick up lines work like this, for example. Say something to the woman, like this, Hi, I need you opinion on something, do you think it is normal for a woman to try to time a pregnancy so that her baby is born within a particular zodiac sign? I would really like to hear the opinion of a woman about this subject.

Then you can follow up with a story about how you know a woman who wants to make sure her kid’s zodiac signs are compatible with hers so they will be well behavied as they grow up.

These various types of subjects for conversation can be about:

1. Children 2. Marriage 3. Astrology 4. Pregnancy 5. Relationships

The number of ways you can go with this are endless. Some of my favorite follow ups are:

“Do you believe in astrology?” (this can lead into discussions of fate and destiny)

“What is your sign?” (No matter what she says – be sure to mention your sign is compatible with hers!)

“What do you think of children? You seem like the mothering type.”

This could go on forever, surely, you get the idea.

A good pick up line design draws a woman into an interestingly deep conversation, while allowing you the opportunity of getting to know one another better and becoming familiar with one another.

This is how you begin conversations.

Once you reach this point, ask for her telephone number and set up your first date.

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Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some men think they are too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some men think they are too short.

Some think they’re too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so big that you are sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Keep in mind that this method is generally in use when it comes to assessing any individual. Based on her looks you judge a woman, while sizing the woman up visually and then you decide if you think she is attractive, right.

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This aspect naturally leads to seduction.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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Finally! A step-by-step guide on how to meet women that makes meeting women fun and easy for any guy!

Here’s a question for you…

(And you have to be honest with me here!)

Is meeting women hard for you to do? Do you feel afraid when it comes to meeting women? And is that fear keeping you from succeeding and keeping you lonely and alone?

If that’s the case, don’t sweat it. I’m going to share with you some killer tidbits of advice that you can start using right away to meet some great women, and help you overcome your fear and take control of your love life!

You may be under the false assumption that meeting women is supposed to come naturally to you. After all – we’re men! Aren’t we just “supposed” to know how to do this naturally?

Nope!

No matter what you believe, men are not born with the skills of how to meet and attract women. (Trust me, I wish that WAS the case, but it’s not!)

Meeting women is a LEARNED social behavior.

Just like any skill, you have to LEARN how to meet and talk to women, just like you have to learn to speak Spanish, play the guitar, and recite your A-B-C’s.

It’s a SKILL. And skills are learned, not instinctual.

So if you don’t know how to meet women, know this – there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t gotten enough experience to make meeting women a comfortable experience yet.

Unfortunately, there are many guys out there who’s fear of meeting women keeps them home alone on Friday night, and most of them will NEVER do what’s necessary to overcome that fear and meet women.

This is due to the fact that these men don’t realize just how much their lives are controlled by this fear! And they justify this fear of going out and meeting women by thinking of all the things that could go wrong.

Some guys have such a dim view of themselves as attractive men that they think a girl they’re interested in is going to laugh at them, or dismiss them, or tell them off. Maybe she’ll throw her drink in their face, or maybe they’ll get beaten up by her boyfriend!

If this sounds like the kind of things that go through your head before you approach a woman, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to not meet women, because you are giving into your fears.

In short: You are practicing FAILURE.

Understand – most of those things almost never happen in the real world!

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

Conversely, some of their classmates were fortunate enough to have positive experiences early on with girls and sex. Those experiences helped to define their attitudes and beliefs about meeting women, which helped set them up for success as they matured.

But even if you started off on the wrong foot in seventh grade, you can still take control of your fears of meeting women. You don’t have to be in high school to become a superstar with the ladies!

You’re just going to have to re-learn what you know about how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to examine and change your current beliefs and attitudes that hold you back when it comes to meeting women.

This is something that is extremely difficult for most guys to do. It’s easy to say you want to learn how to meet women, but the hard part is actually taking the action necessary to do so. You need to actually WANT to change!

You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”

When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, just start talking to her, even if you don’t know what to say.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about – ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s doing.

At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?

Quickly settle on the what to say – don’t worry about the words you’re going to use – and go over there and talk to her. Don’t let more than three seconds pass by. Make the decision to act and follow through. (It will help you in the future if you memorize some canned material that matches your personality.)

Don’t try and measure success based on if you got her phone number or a date. Just the simple act of approaching a woman and talking to her makes you a winner, because you did something that 80% of the other men out there wouldn’t have done! And the more you can do that, the greater your chances of meeting that one special woman.

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Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams…

You have to know how to approach a girl in the right manner if you want to have success with your pickup. The following are some proven tips I’d recommend you do to help you be successful in meeting women!

Have you ever approached a girl with what you thought was the best pickup line ever, but she freaked out when you tapped her on the shoulder?

Getting rejected right off the bat can be painful, but this is why you need to know the secrets to approaching women the right way! Once you’ve “blown it” with a girl, it is extremely hard to recover.

It is vitally important to make sure when approaching women, that you do so in a NON-TREATENING way and that you don’t telegraph your interest in the woman you’re approaching too early.

This is all about coming in “under the radar.”

It’s the woman’s reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her.

Think about this: if you had homeless people constantly walking up to you begging for change, you’d get pretty sick of it, right? Well, to most women, guys who try and pick them up are no better than that – an annoyance.

Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.

I guess the big question is – what’s the right way to approach a woman?

The first secret is – DO NOT HESITATE!

If you wait too long before approaching a girl, you’ll probably talk yourself out of doing it. Be focused, and like Nike – JUST DO IT.

Next, know before-hand what you’re going to say. This makes the act of approaching women so much easier, because you don’t have to waste time thinking of something to talk about before you approach.

When it comes to a situation like this, you should probably have a good, proven “pick up line” memorized that will help start a conversation.

But I’m not talking about the “Hey, nice shoes, what to have sex?” type line. The point is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?

A good pick up line is something that will start an innocent conversation with the girl you’re approaching. Examples of a good line would be to ask her opinion on something and then continue the conversation by asking more questions about her opinion.

When approaching a woman, it’s important that you approach her from an ANGLE. Most guys charge towards the girl they want to meet like they’re marching to war! Coming in at an angle is much less confrontational and will put the girl at ease on a subconscious level.

The simple fact is – great pick-ups can only occur when the girl you are talking to feels comfortable with you! That’s why you need to feel comfortable talking to the girl.

If you feel uncomfortable approaching women, the best way to build your comfort level is to go out and practice meeting as many women as you can until you GET comfortable with it!

Let me tell you – getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! You actually have to DO it so you can build your level of experience. (Trust me, it gets easier the more you do it).

If you’re afraid of rejection, adjust your goals so that it’s hard to get rejected. Too many guys try and get the phone number, the date, or the quick romp in the sack. Instead, take baby steps and set your goal as just talking to the girl and carrying on a conversation. Use that as your measure of success. Remember, you’re just learning the right way of doing things.

That’s it!

Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.

The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.

Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you’re talking to, because she won’t feel that she’s committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you’re only a momentary “distraction.” This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.

Don’t worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

Be aware that the dating game is actually a numbers game. You need to meet as many women as possible to find that one special girl who will change your life.

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Feeling clueless when it comes to picking up women? These handy tips will help get you started on the path of success to getting the women of your dreams!

Are you looking to start picking up women, but clueless about where to start?

Chances are no one you know can help you learn to pick up women. Your friends are probably just as clueless as you are, and your family is of no help at all. Even those “Dating Experts” you see on TV are full of it, because they have to cater to the feminist media to keep their careers on track! (And as we all know, the mainstream media doesn’t like helping guys get laid!)

The fact is: Teaching guys how to pick up women is a touchy subject!

If you want to have success with women TONIGHT, you’re going to have to follow some practical advice that works right away. Lucky for you, I’m about to share some with you right now…

First off – here’s what you DON’T need to pick up women.

You DON’T need to look like a “male model.”

This is a huge mistake that almost all men make. Little do they realize that close to 85% of women place more importance on how a man makes them FEEL as opposed to how he actually LOOKS.

So if you’re insecure about your looks, don’t sweat it! There’s still hope.

Second, you DON’T have to spend a lot of money or drive an expensive car!

Many of the best ladies men I know never spend more than $30 on a date – heck, some of them don’t even own a car! (And if they do, it usually isn’t a very nice one!)

You’ll find that women can be very forgiving when it comes to how much money you make or spend on them, if they LIKE you! And part of picking up women is to get the girl to like you, right?

Finally, you DON’T have to be famous, be a certain type of ethnicity or nationality, or anything else you can think of.

The secret is to have a great personality – this will make any other obstacle you think you have to getting a girl to like you obsolete!

When you know the right way to talk to women, nothing else matters.

Unless you’re currently a master pickup artist, you may not have a whole lot of success with women right away when using these tactics – after all, it takes time to practice and learn from your experiences. But if you actually apply what you’ve learned, you’ll soon find your success with women will skyrocket!

You’ll want to try and go out as often as you can to talk to women – especially when you’re first starting out. You may be intimidated to go to “high pressure” environments like bars or clubs where it’s difficult to pick up women, but they are great practice grounds for you to hone your skills.

But regardless, make a point of going out to pick up women a certain number of times a week – after all, practice makes perfect!

When you’re first starting, you might not have a whole lot of success with the ladies. But over time, as your experience builds, your confidence will grow. Every success and failure you have is a learning experience meant to make you better at picking up women.

Remember: The more experience you have, the easier it’ll be.

And what you’re doing when you go out to clubs and bars to pick up women is gaining experience!

When you’re going out to pick up women and gain experience, it’s important to look as good as you possibly can!

(Notice here that I’m not saying you have to be “good looking.” I’m saying you need to “look good.” There is a big difference between the two. You don’t have any say about what you look like, but you DO have a say in your appearance – your hairstyle, the clothes you wear, what cologne you put on, etc.)

Try and dress nicely – wear clothes that fit, that match, and that look good on you. If you’re hopeless when it comes to fashion, get a savvy friend to help you out.

Keep in mind – you don’t NEED to dress nicely to meet women, but it will make it much easier on yourself if you do! Not only that, but the better you look, the more confident you’ll feel.

Keep an out out for every opportunity to pick up women that comes your way. Attractive women are just about everywhere, and if you notice an opportunity to talk to one, don’t let it pass you by!

Finally, every good pick-up follows a structure. Its a series of steps you can actually REPEAT time and time again and get similar results.

The structure is:

Find a girl.

Walk up and meet her.

Gain Rapport.

Build Attraction.

That’s it! Four simple steps. You’ll find that if you’re able to effectively meet women and gain rapport with them, you can build attraction quite easily.

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I would like to ask you a question.

Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the “lets just be friends” category?

Do you ever wonder why this happens?

Chances are it was because you did not know how to flirt properly with the woman.

You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.

So why is flirting so important?

The answer is simple really; the process of flirting creates sexual tension.

When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.

You guessed it – A FRIEND!

So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.

Flirting is no big secret as many might consider, flirting is a lot of fun. Flirting does not work only if it is not done properly.

Flirting with a woman is an art form. Flirting is the ability to communicate the romantic interest you have for a woman, while being subtle about the subject.

These are mixed signals.

You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.

Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:

MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious

Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.

You must lay the proper groundwork ahead of time, so you can avoid rejection.

MISTAKE #2: They Are Not Obvious Enough!

On the flip side of that coin are the guys who communicate NO INTEREST AT ALL, yet in their minds they think that the girl should know how they are feeling. Then, when they make their move, the girl is surprised because up to this point, she had no idea the guy was interested in her!

MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions

A great deal of flirting has to do with what you say, but the more powerful techniques are NON-VERBAL body language stuff. Little things like an eyebrow raise, a head tilt, or a wicked smile can give new meaning to an otherwise benign remark.

MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously

Flirting is a lighthearted and fun practice, it is when serious romantic gestures begin that causes the sexual tension to break down.

If you’re not having fun when flirting – and more importantly, if the girl isn’t having fun – then you are doing something WRONG.

We could list more mistakes; however, this should provide you with a clear picture. Do you wonder what the right way to begin flirting is?

You’re going to want to use as much sexual innuendo as you can. This is a great way to flirt. But the key here is to be SUBTLE.

Let us say you are at a bar, for example and the woman you are with orders a drink and then asks if you would like one as well, you can jokingly say to her, You aren’t trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me, are you, while adding a nod and a wink.

Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.

Another example may be, when a woman makes a sexy remark, you say to her, Stop trying to tempt me, you vixen, you know I never kiss a woman on the first date.

See how that works?

As you begin flirting more and more, you begin to get a bit more obvious about your interests, although you never really step over that line.

You will notice how the attraction between you and the woman begins to build. Then one day you find that a harmless bit of flirting has turned into seduction.

The real fun begins at this point.

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Website: www.speed-seduction.net
Author: Ross Jeffries
Company: Ghita Inc.
Rating: SCAM! Avoid At All Costs!!!!

Speed Seduction is one of the earliest incarnations of dating advice for men to be found on the internet. Since the early 90’s, creator Ross Jeffries has been going on talk shows and doing interviews to try and get unsuspecting men to sign up for his courses.

Now, to be fair, everything we’ve seen about how Ross Jeffries does business is on the level. Products get shipped out in a timely fashion, customer support is easily accessible, and refunds are made in a timely fashion.

In one case, a product I ordered had a mis-labeled disk in it, which was actually a repeat of a different disk in the series. When I called up to complain and report the issue, I was sent out a new replacement disk immediately.

So the fault in Speed Seduction isn’t in the way Mr. Jeffries conducts business, rather it’s in the information he chooses to sell.

The concept behind Speed Seduction is that you can use a science called Neuro Linguistic Programming to “hypnotize” a woman into feeling attraction for you and getting her into bed.

You use pre-designed hypnotic routines, weasel phrases, anchors, modalities, and a bunch of other gobbely-gook to achieve this goal.

First off – the production value on all of Speed Seduction’s materials is rather amateurish. Some of it was recorded in a garage in the early 90’s, and it sounds like it.

The technology behind Neuro Linguistic Programming (or NLP) seems sound enough. It’s about structuring your language patters to evoke specific emotional responses from your subjects.

Unfortuneately, when it comes to dating, it just doesn’t work.

On a wide scale, everyone who has used Speed Seduction to attract women have reported untold problems and outright failures when using the method.

Top students, students who had claimed to have gotten it to work in the past, now deride the method as being “too complicated” and “not effective enough,” and have moved on to better systems of seduction.

Average and intermediate students report to have great difficulties getting the system to work at all. Complaints of “too much memorization” abound, since the whole endeavor centers around regurgitating awkward routines which are supposed to hypnotize a girl.

(And trust me, some of these routines are loooong.)

Not only that, but you get a lot of really lame subversive attempts to embed hypnotic commends with women. Like saying things such as:

“My best ideas come from above me, but sometimes they come from b-low me.” (Mispronounce below as “blow” and then point at your penis).

Indeed, in addition to all the outright criticism of Speed Seduction itself, it’s creator, Ross Jeffries, is surrounded in so much controversy, he alone is reason enough to stay away from his method.

There are numerous reports floating around that Ross Jeffries can’t even get his system to work for himself, and he resorts to either “acting gay” or outright embarrassing stunts to get the attention of women. One report has him getting on all fours and acting like a dog to sniff a woman’s butt at a club.

He’s also been accused of relying on hookers for female companionship by former friends, claiming they never see him with a girl he’s not paying for. Whether this is true or not, I can’t verify, but the last thing I want to do is learn how to get chicks from a guy who relies on hookers for companionship.

Other students, who have paid to be hypnotized by Ross Jeffries personally, report great dissatisfaction with the end result. In one case, a student reports “It did nothing and was a waste of money,” and in another case, a student claims “I left feeling more messed up than I did when I went in.”

Ross Jeffries likes to try and deflect any criticism about his success with women (which he is constantly challenged on) by claiming it doesn’t matter what kind of success he has, that he’s a good teacher of the material. However, the material itself is flawed, and who wants to learn from a man who can’t make his system work for himself?

Ross has also been widely criticized for trying to inject elements of his own “religion” into his system, telling students to rely on “huna”, “metaphysics”, and “energy manipulation” to get women attracted to them.

Obviously, a great deal of this methodology is complete, outright B.S. Claims that Ross Jeffries wants his students to see him as some type of “cult leader” abound, and it’s not hard to believe based on what I’m seeing here.

Not only that, but a great deal of Ross Jeffries marketing materials are blatantly false and misleading. Ross Jeffries himself admits to this while on the Dr. Phil show. During the show, one woman exclaimed she felt extremely “creeped out” by him. (Not exactly what you want to hear with a teacher of seduction.)

You can see Mr. Jeffries admit his false advertising on the Dr. Phil video here.

In the same video, you can see him lie about what he teaches. He claims he’s not teaching guys how to hypnotize women, when all his sales material (and even his course material) says otherwise.

In my personal test with Speed Seduction, I met with very poor results. The hypnotic patterns and language structure taught in the course does not go with how normal people talk at all, and it comes out as awkward.

Often times, you’re just looking for some opportunity to recite one of the patterns you spent hours learning. And when you do, they never work as they are supposed to. Typically, the girl’s reaction is akin to “Yeah, whatever,” and then she moves on.

When trying to do the proper voice tone and inflection (ie: they “hypno-voice” taught in the course), I had one girl ask me why I was talking so weird.

The use of Speed Seduction turned otherwise regular interactions with girls into something creepy and unnatural. I actually felt BAD about using these methods on girls, and even worse when I saw they got no result and I had basically blown a chance with a chick by using something so stupid to try and “seduce” her.

Can Speed Seduction work? Probably. There are reports of students getting it to do what it’s supposed to. But most of these students also claim to had to create and memorize upwards of 300 hypnotic routines to do so. This is a situation where you just bombard the woman into sleeping with you.

In addition to that, there are reports of “high buyers remorse” from women who do fall for Speed Seduction tactics. Numerous “successful” students talk about how they lose a girl after the initial lay because she was weirded out by the experience. Critics of Speed Seduction claim that when you use NLP to bypass a girl’s critical factors to get her to sleep with you, they will flare up once the deed is done and judge you harshly. So even by getting her into bed, you lose her in the long run.

All this goes towards me giving this system the SCAM stamp.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The information might work, but there are better systems out there. Cheaper, more effective systems (the basic Speed Seduction Course runs upwards of $250!). Don’t waste your time with this hocus pocus. Instead, check out the only three dating advice

products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones

Website: www.realworldseduction.com
Author: Swinggcat
Company: Superior Living Inc.
Rating: SCAM! Avoid At All Costs!

When I first saw the Real World Seduction website, I was intrigued. It seemed like a really “underground method” of seducing women. In fact, the whole vibe of the website seems a bit seedy, which I guess is part of the initial attraction.

The proprietor of the site, who goes by the nickname “Swinggcat,” was apparently a big-shot seducer in the early days of the seduction community.

When you read his sales material on his website, he tries really hard to convince you that his method of “push pull” is the greatest thing since sliced bread, and his teachings will make any woman attracted to you instantly.

Now, I can’t bash the product too much. Swinggcat definitely has some interesting material. But I just can’t in good faith recommend anybody purchase the products from this site for the following reasons:

1. You Can’t Download What You Purchase.

There is a long, long history of people who have bought the Real World Seduction course and were never able to download it. And those who did download it weren’t able to open it!

This is because there is some type of copy protection on the ebook that requires an activation code to access it.

The problem? Well, after you buy YOU NEVER GET THE ACTIVATION CODE!

So there you are, stuck with a book you just paid upwards of $40 for that you can’t read.

Strike 1.

2. No Customer Support – EVER.

There is a horrible lack of customer support over at Real World Seduction. If you have a problem, good luck getting in touch with anyone. Phone calls go unanswered (a mysterious female voice thanks you for calling Real World Seduction, and asks you to leave a message that will never be returned), and emails go unread.

When I had a problem accessing my course, I emailed the support email upwards of 10 times – once a day for 10 days.

No answer. Ever.

Strike 2.

3. Bad about giving refunds

After feeling rather taken advantage of, I called up and emailed again, demanding my money back. Again, each request went UNANSWERED.

So I end up buying a book that I can’t read. Perfect. That’s really going to help me “attract women.”

Strike 3 – You’re out!!!!

Funny enough, you never stop getting Swinggcat’s emails asking you to buy MORE of his products, though. Only thsi time, instead of $40, he’s asking you to shell out $250 and up.

I am not alone in this bad experience either. The internet is riddled with angry reviews about the lack of customer support and bad business practices by Real World Seduction.

Final Verdict: STAY AWAY!!!!

The information might be good, but the company isn’t. Don’t waste your time. Instead, check out the only three dating advice products I recommend:

#1. The Art Of Approaching (Most Recommended – Must Buy)

#2. Double Your Dating

#3. Alpha Confidence

You can’t go wrong with these three.

Stay safe,

Jim Jones