Secrets To Approaching Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Knowing how to approach women is a vital skill every man needs to know, because approaching women is the first step in creating a relationship with the girl of your dreams…

You have to know how to approach a girl in the right manner if you want to have success with your pickup. The following are some proven tips I’d recommend you do to help you be successful in meeting women!

Have you ever approached a girl with what you thought was the best pickup line ever, but she freaked out when you tapped her on the shoulder?

Getting rejected right off the bat can be painful, but this is why you need to know the secrets to approaching women the right way! Once you’ve “blown it” with a girl, it is extremely hard to recover.

It is vitally important to make sure when approaching women, that you do so in a NON-TREATENING way and that you don’t telegraph your interest in the woman you’re approaching too early.

This is all about coming in “under the radar.”

It’s the woman’s reality that she constantly gets guys approaching her and trying to pick her up, so her natural inclination is to nip this in the bud quickly by outright REJECTING any man who seems interested in her.

Think about this: if you had homeless people constantly walking up to you begging for change, you’d get pretty sick of it, right? Well, to most women, guys who try and pick them up are no better than that – an annoyance.

Approaching women can be both easy AND fun when you know how to do it RIGHT.

I guess the big question is – what’s the right way to approach a woman?

The first secret is – DO NOT HESITATE!

If you wait too long before approaching a girl, you’ll probably talk yourself out of doing it. Be focused, and like Nike – JUST DO IT.

Next, know before-hand what you’re going to say. This makes the act of approaching women so much easier, because you don’t have to waste time thinking of something to talk about before you approach.

When it comes to a situation like this, you should probably have a good, proven “pick up line” memorized that will help start a conversation.

But I’m not talking about the “Hey, nice shoes, what to have sex?” type line. The point is to be NON-THREATENING, remember?

A good pick up line is something that will start an innocent conversation with the girl you’re approaching. Examples of a good line would be to ask her opinion on something and then continue the conversation by asking more questions about her opinion.

When approaching a woman, it’s important that you approach her from an ANGLE. Most guys charge towards the girl they want to meet like they’re marching to war! Coming in at an angle is much less confrontational and will put the girl at ease on a subconscious level.

The simple fact is – great pick-ups can only occur when the girl you are talking to feels comfortable with you! That’s why you need to feel comfortable talking to the girl.

If you feel uncomfortable approaching women, the best way to build your comfort level is to go out and practice meeting as many women as you can until you GET comfortable with it!

Let me tell you – getting good at approaching women is not going to happen if all you do is read about it or study it! You actually have to DO it so you can build your level of experience. (Trust me, it gets easier the more you do it).

If you’re afraid of rejection, adjust your goals so that it’s hard to get rejected. Too many guys try and get the phone number, the date, or the quick romp in the sack. Instead, take baby steps and set your goal as just talking to the girl and carrying on a conversation. Use that as your measure of success. Remember, you’re just learning the right way of doing things.

That’s it!

Make it a game by seeing how many girls you can talk to in one day, and then try and beat your score.

The last thing you want to remember is always use a “time constraint” when approaching a woman. This is very easy to do – just tell her right off the bat that you’re not going to be long because you have to get back to what you were doing.

Effective use of time constraints will better engage the woman you’re talking to, because she won’t feel that she’s committing to a time-consuming endeavor. Instead, you’re only a momentary “distraction.” This helps eliminate any reason to reject you right off the bat.

Don’t worry about putting a time limit on yourself. Once the conversation picks up, the girl will forget about your time constraint and you can talk to her as long as you want. Remember, the goal here is just to get the conversation started, and a good time constraint will help you do that!

Be aware that the dating game is actually a numbers game. You need to meet as many women as possible to find that one special girl who will change your life.

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