How To Meet Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Finally! A step-by-step guide on how to meet women that makes meeting women fun and easy for any guy!

Here’s a question for you…

(And you have to be honest with me here!)

Is meeting women hard for you to do? Do you feel afraid when it comes to meeting women? And is that fear keeping you from succeeding and keeping you lonely and alone?

If that’s the case, don’t sweat it. I’m going to share with you some killer tidbits of advice that you can start using right away to meet some great women, and help you overcome your fear and take control of your love life!

You may be under the false assumption that meeting women is supposed to come naturally to you. After all – we’re men! Aren’t we just “supposed” to know how to do this naturally?

Nope!

No matter what you believe, men are not born with the skills of how to meet and attract women. (Trust me, I wish that WAS the case, but it’s not!)

Meeting women is a LEARNED social behavior.

Just like any skill, you have to LEARN how to meet and talk to women, just like you have to learn to speak Spanish, play the guitar, and recite your A-B-C’s.

It’s a SKILL. And skills are learned, not instinctual.

So if you don’t know how to meet women, know this – there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t gotten enough experience to make meeting women a comfortable experience yet.

Unfortunately, there are many guys out there who’s fear of meeting women keeps them home alone on Friday night, and most of them will NEVER do what’s necessary to overcome that fear and meet women.

This is due to the fact that these men don’t realize just how much their lives are controlled by this fear! And they justify this fear of going out and meeting women by thinking of all the things that could go wrong.

Some guys have such a dim view of themselves as attractive men that they think a girl they’re interested in is going to laugh at them, or dismiss them, or tell them off. Maybe she’ll throw her drink in their face, or maybe they’ll get beaten up by her boyfriend!

If this sounds like the kind of things that go through your head before you approach a woman, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to not meet women, because you are giving into your fears.

In short: You are practicing FAILURE.

Understand – most of those things almost never happen in the real world!

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

Conversely, some of their classmates were fortunate enough to have positive experiences early on with girls and sex. Those experiences helped to define their attitudes and beliefs about meeting women, which helped set them up for success as they matured.

But even if you started off on the wrong foot in seventh grade, you can still take control of your fears of meeting women. You don’t have to be in high school to become a superstar with the ladies!

You’re just going to have to re-learn what you know about how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to examine and change your current beliefs and attitudes that hold you back when it comes to meeting women.

This is something that is extremely difficult for most guys to do. It’s easy to say you want to learn how to meet women, but the hard part is actually taking the action necessary to do so. You need to actually WANT to change!

You don’t want to be one of those guys who says, “Next time…” to himself whenever he sees an attractive woman. Because for those guys, every time is the “next time!”

When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, just start talking to her, even if you don’t know what to say.

It doesn’t matter what you talk about – ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s doing.

At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?

Quickly settle on the what to say – don’t worry about the words you’re going to use – and go over there and talk to her. Don’t let more than three seconds pass by. Make the decision to act and follow through. (It will help you in the future if you memorize some canned material that matches your personality.)

Don’t try and measure success based on if you got her phone number or a date. Just the simple act of approaching a woman and talking to her makes you a winner, because you did something that 80% of the other men out there wouldn’t have done! And the more you can do that, the greater your chances of meeting that one special woman.

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