How To Generate Attraction – No Matter Your Looks

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

Some men think they are too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some men think they are too short.

Some think they’re too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

However, it is not true.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on.

These are all aspects that factor into looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

Take for example; you have a zit on your nose that feels so big that you are sure everyone notices it there. However, in reality the pimple is under your skin and not viewable to everyone else in the world.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Keep in mind that this method is generally in use when it comes to assessing any individual. Based on her looks you judge a woman, while sizing the woman up visually and then you decide if you think she is attractive, right.

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This assumption is a mistake.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

That women instinctively generate towards good looking men is one of the most misleading myths out there.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This aspect naturally leads to seduction.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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