Christian Men and Dating Advice

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Balancing our beliefs and desires is an ever acting characteristic in a humans life, we strive do this all the time.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

Naturally, we strive to remain true in our beliefs. For some Christian men, it is vital that their experience of love stay within the boundaries of their church.

One of those boundaries is that sex should only happen once married.

This is not a belief for us to judge since there are validities of free will choices for us all in whether we follow it or not.

Ancient legends tell us that when we partake of sex with one another, a part of their soul lingers with ours and we carry that piece of soul around with us for the rest of our lives.

The doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one, when you consider this in some respect.

But this presents a unique challenge for those men out there who wish to stay true to their faith.

There are a few perspectives to consider when you wish to continue attracting women and then foster your relationship while awaiting the consummation of marriage.

It is truly a difficult union for anyone who is married and incompatible therefore, sex is important.

Here is some advice I’ve come up with specifically for men who face this issue of romance vs. faith.

1. Be clear about what you believe.

Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.

We have ability to reason and think and we have free will. It is up to us to check out the options while deciding which path we may follow. You may embrace all the teachings of church or you may choose what you believe.

No matter what your choice, you must be clear on what it is you believe, and stick to it!

2. Understand that God has a plan for you.

You must trust in the fact that there is a woman out there you are meant to be with, and God has a plan to unite you with her.

But there is only so much God can do! After all, we are beings of free will, and it is up to us to take action and seize the opportunities God presents to us.

To find the right woman for you, you must be proactive.

Since your actions are belief based on the path God that has set before you, you have to make it happen. This means going out to meet women, dating and getting to know the woman. Remember this is not something that just happens.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

Virginity may be sacred, however, it is meant to be given or lost. Your challenge is to seek out the right person with whom to share your sexuality.

Sex has a spiritual aspect of course, since it is an aspect of finding the woman who makes you feel so very alive, whole and loved. The spiritual aspect of sex is different from the act of sex, since it touches you within a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of intimacy helps you determine if the physical aspects are in tune also.

Intimacy with women is nothing to be afraid of, hugging, touching and kissing are natural urges and reactions. Nevertheless, true intimacy comes for sharing your hopes and dreams with each other while staring deeply into each others eyes.

4. Women are real people with no need of a pedestal.

Because of the importance places on sex in your faith, it might be easy to artificially inflate a woman’s importance.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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